Wording a wedding invitation correctly sets the tone for your wedding. Learn how with helpful samples and basic guidelines.
One of the most common questions I get asked is “how do I write my wedding invites?”. Something so simple can be quite deceiving… and getting your wording (and invitation) right really does set the stage for what your wedding guests will think and feel about your wedding in the coming months.
So today I’m going to share some of the basic “rules” surrounding wedding invite wording etiquette and give a couple of pointers.
The first thing that is usually written on a wedding invitation is the host’s name. This is usually the parents of the couple if they are hosting and paying for the wedding, or the couple themselves.
Wedding Invitation Wording If Parents are Hosting
- Start with the host’s names. Traditionally, that’s the bride’s parents. For same-sex couple’s, you could write the names in alphabetical order.
- Follow this with “request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their son/daughter”
- Then include the first names of the bride and the groom
- If you want to include the groom’s parents, include them next (however, if they are helping to pay for the wedding, they should be up above the couple’s names, with the bride’s parents)
- Follow this with the date and time of the wedding
- Location goes last
Start with the first and last name of the parents who are hosting. If the parents have the same last name as their child, you don’t write out the last name for the bride or groom of whom the parents are hosting, just write their first and middle name (if any).
Below are examples of formal wedding invitation wording.
Keep in mind that the below list is very traditional wording – many brides and grooms have moved away from this strict format and instead use more modern and/or casual options.
Formal Wedding Invite Wording – One set of parents
Jeffrey Roads and Lara Roads
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their son
James Michael
to
Sarah Michelle Jenkins
Saturday the sixteenth of January
two thousand twenty-two
at two o’clock in the afternoon
Saint Andrews Church
Johnsonville, Wellington
Formal Wedding Invite Wording – Two sets of parents
Jeffrey Roads and Lara Roads &
Maxwell Jenkins and Tamara Jenkins
request the honour of your presence
at the marriage of their children
James Michael
to
Sarah Michelle
Saturday the sixteenth of January
two thousand twenty-two
at two o’clock in the afternoon
Saint Andrews Church
Johnsonville, Wellington
Including deceased parents in wedding invitations
This can be a sensitive subject. If a parent is no longer alive they aren’t able to host your wedding but you might still want their name on the invitation.
Adding the word late in front of their name is a way to show that they are no longer here in the world but you still honour them on the invite.
Wedding invite with the name of a deceased parent
James Michael, son of Lara Roads and the late Jeffrey Roads
& Sarah Michelle, daughter of Maxwell Jenkins and Tamara Jenkins
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage
Saturday the sixteenth of January
two thousand twenty-two
at two o’clock in the afternoon
Wording Wedding Invitations for Modern Families
Part of the reason so many couples have moved towards more modern and casual wording options is that family life is a whole lot more complex than 80-odd years ago.
We’ve got to consider that many couples pay their own way, their parents could be divorced, or even not in the picture.
So if you aren’t sure, apply these overarching principles:
- the people paying for the wedding should be listed first.
- It comes down to giving proper respect to the individuals that are hosting (i.e. paying for) the wedding, first and foremost. If you as the couple are paying for the wedding – great! You can skip mentioning your parents if you want to.
Modern wedding invitations don’t need to include the full names of the couple either.
Wedding invitation wording when the couple hosts with their parents
Together with their parents,
Sally and Edward
Invite
Maddy and Charlie
To celebrate their wedding
11 November 2023
Ceremony at 4:00 pm
Botanical Rose Gardens, Wellington
Reception to follow
Wording when the couple hosts without their parents
Sally and Edward
Invite
Maddy and Charlie
To celebrate their big day
11 November 2023
Ceremony at 4:00 pm
Botanical Rose Gardens, Wellington
Reception to follow
Wording ceremony-only only invites
Sometimes there are guests that you choose to only invite to the ceremony. In this case, it’s best to print your wedding invitation details on one card, and your wedding reception details on the other card.
That way you can simply just sent the wedding ceremony invitation to those that aren’t coming to the reception.
Reception only invites
In other cases, there are guests that are only invited to the reception and not the ceremony. This is often the case for wedding ceremonies that happen in small and intimate spaces or overseas destinations, or for couples that have eloped.
In these cases, you might still want a party with your loved ones afterwards and so you can send out wedding reception-only invitations.
Reception only invite sample – wording for wedding invitations if already married
We got hitched!
Please join us in celebration
with dinner and dancing!
November 11th, 6:00 pm
The Bistro, 12 Topor St
Wellington
Love, Sally and Edward Nichols
Using these basic guidelines makes the wording of your wedding invites a lot less stressful!
Related posts
A wedding invitation proof-reading checklist – Your wedding invitation is an important piece of stationery for your wedding.
Save the dates – are they a must-have or a waste of money?
