If you’ve read my post on why having a wedding theme is important, you might be keen to dive in and figure out what your wedding theme is going to be. Or you might be completely overwhelmed with 1,500 pins on your secret wedding Pinterest board… either way, I have you covered! Today’s post is going to give you some practical tips on how to figure out a wedding theme that’ll fit you as a couple.
Finding your wedding theme: where to start?
There are really no restrictions to what you might choose to do with your wedding’s overall look and feel – but if you’ve already made some of the big decisions then you’ll have to keep those in mind. Those big decisions are…
If you’ve booked a wedding venue
Your venue has the biggest influence on your wedding day theme, so if you’re stuck on a wedding theme, reflecting on your venue is a good place to start. Your venue’s décor and location will help dictate a theme and it’s best to work with the venue, rather than against it. No point settling on a modern and bold style when you’re getting married in a converted barn, for example.
If you’ve set a wedding date
You need to consider the time of year. The season affects the temperature, the flowers available, the food – all of these things are important considerations. Winter wonderland doesn’t work in the height of summer, for example! If you’ve got your heart set on a particular type of flowers (sunflowers are a popular “theme” for example) then make sure they’ll be flowering about the time of your wedding.
“There’s just so many ideas floating round in my head…”
One of the biggest hurdles with deciding on a wedding theme can be refining it to just two or three keywords or concepts that really encapsulate your wedding day. Within the Wedding Planning Kickstart Program is a worksheet I designed with dozens of key phrases and ideas. It’s meant to be a very quick, instinctual exercise which allows you to cross off and circle different themes. From this initial run through, you’ll find that some common themes or ideas emerge.
Once you have a few concepts to explore further, you can refine your ideas with a wedding mood board, also known as a wedding vision board. Let’s get some glue and scissors out and have a go…
Create a wedding vision board
A wedding vision board helps you make decisions on the aesthetic appeal of the day, and it is a great resource to share with your wedding vendors too – it communicates the ideas and aesthetic you are going for without having to write a 30 page email!
Step One: Compiling Ideas and Inspiration
One you have a few core ideas, start compiling pictures from wedding magazines, print photos out from online, collect fabric swatches – anything that inspires you!
Note – you can also create a Pinterest board but I find the tactile nature of many wedding aspects is best represented on a mood board – and we all know how Pinterest can have you looking for a recipe at 6pm then suddenly you’re sucked into the void and planning your holiday home into the wee hours!
Step Two: Editing
Here’s the hard bit. After a while of collecting these bits and pieces, lay everything out and see if there’s any common ideas or themes running through the pictures you like – for example, a particular colour. Colour is going to happen anyway – so that’s a good starting point if you’re struggling to come up with an idea organically.
Group things together, shuffle them round, and remove anything that doesn’t fit (just because you find something beautiful, doesn’t mean you have to include it in your wedding…).
Consider “What is it about this picture do I like?” (For example: the lace detail, the colour, a phrase or saying, the texture of the fabric). The answers you come up with will help you think critically about your choices – and will give you some clues about the style and details you want. There is no right or wrong answer here.
Step Three: Pulling it Together
Grab a big bit of cardboard and start sticking things down. Cull some pictures, print out the rest, and use fabric samples, lots of glue and fun pens to make a vision board of ideas for your wedding day.
Don’t be shy about writing notes and drawing directly onto your pictures – if you’re sharing this with someone else (like a wedding vendor), notes will help communicate what aspect of the image you’re keen on. I’ve had a bride send me a picture of a kraft Save the Date with lots of lace saying “this is what I want!” when she really wanted a white, modern Save the Date – but using the same wording… it’s all about communication, and by sharing as much detail as possible, you can get towards mutual understanding a lot faster.
If you are still trying to pin down an idea, then check out our post on the top 10 wedding themes.